Author Archives: carolyncustisjames

“Men need to support women and, I wish it went without saying, women need to support women too. … We must raise both the ceiling and the floor.”            —Sheryl Sandberg In 1955, Rosa Parks’ refusal … Continue reading →

When I was in my twenties I listened as my uncle, a highly respected medical doctor in Oregon, was describing the kinds of conversations he had with patients who had been battered by their husbands. I never will forget his … Continue reading →

“You see things I don’t see.”  I could hardly believe my ears! The fact that these were the first words my father spoke to me after reading a chapter I’d written in Lost Women of the Bible profoundly impacted me. … Continue reading →

“The discussions may be difficult, but the positives are many. We cannot change what we are unaware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.”    —Sheryl Sandberg One of the risks of initiating an online discussion on … Continue reading →

“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” —Nelson Mandela What better way to celebrate the blessings of our freedoms than by … Continue reading →

“The Knotted Gun” by Carl Fredrik Reuterswärd After being out of town for several days last week, I returned home to a writing deadline, packing Frank off to Pennsylvania to start his new job at Biblical Seminary, the ongoing saga … Continue reading →

“You might call them ‘Alpha Dads,’ guys who are as serious about their parenting as they are about making partner. . . . They don’t believe in ‘balance.’ They believe in getting what they want, even if it’s time to … Continue reading →

“Spiritual abuse is a real phenomenon that actually happens in the body of Christ. It is a subtle trap in which the ones who perpetrate spiritual abuse on others are just as trapped in their unhealthy beliefs and actions as … Continue reading →

“The greatest asset a woman brings to her marriage is not her beauty, her charm, her feminine wiles, or even her ability to bear a child. It is her theology. Every wife is her husband’s partner, pastor, spiritual counselor, motivational … Continue reading →

“We are never at fifty-fifty at any given moment—perfect equality is hard to define or sustain—but we allow the pendulum to swing back and forth between us.” —Sheryl Sandberg The PEW Foundation’s report (published May 29)  on “Breadwinner Moms” ignited … Continue reading →